What happens if you don't make friendsExperience

 

In this article, I would like to talk about my experience. As the title says, I stopped making friends at a certain point in my life (when I was a student). This is because there was no one who shared my aspirations.

For example, if you set a goal to enter a difficult university, it is obvious that you should spend time with people who have the same aspirations as you.

If you have the same aspirations, you won't go out to play or do anything annoying while you study, and the presence of each other will compel you to study. The reason I couldn't find anyone who had high aspirations with me back then was because they didn't meet the deadlines for submitting regular tests or didn't do the assignments they were given in the first place, and they would copy the answers to the blank questions with a red pen.

It seemed to me that inauthenticity was boldly rounded out. Do you all want to be friends with people who do this? I do not want to be. I don't want to be in the same ring and sink in the same boat.

While living with such people, an incident occurred. The incident was the “trolley problem,” which divides opinion on issues of ethics and justice.

The content of the case is a question of justice and ethics: whether to save one life at the expense of many lives with one's own hands in front of a runaway trolley, or to save many lives at the expense of one life.

My guess was that opinions would be split in half, and the majority chose to sacrifice one life. So my thought was, are they afraid to argue, are they afraid to disturb the harmony, or are they not thinking?

I thought that if I definitely thought about something, we would disagree. I don't know if I am crazy or if the rest of the world is crazy. From that point on, I stopped making friends and gradually began to distance myself from people.

As the months went by, a certain thing began to happen. I started to notice that I became extremely reluctant to meet people, and that conversations were not smooth anymore. The biggest thing I noticed was that my mind became slow.

I often read in comic books and other media that people get high grades even if they are alone, but in reality I thought that such a thing could never happen. In real life, there are people who say they didn't make friends during their school years, but how did they manage to stay active in groups?

I think that they did not refuse to do things that they did not want to do, and that they had to push down their feelings and thoughts to follow them.

I don't want to push my thoughts away anymore. I want to go to the world of discussion.